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Print model, actress, and media personality, Amber Rose, has all of media buzzing in regards to her Slut Walk protest held recently in Los Angeles. Amber and her multicultural, mostly female protesters marched in skimpy attire and damn near birthday suits to express empowerment and ownership of their bodies, and sexual expression. They all spoke on an array of topics surrounding female sexuality and how its heavy social restriction is still prevalent today.

Amber and the passionate protesters believe that when women dress in sexually alluring clothes or may work in different aspects of the sex industry they’re automatically objectified in all aspects of humanity.   They’re only value lies within sexual pleasure and they’re slapped with cruel social slurs, such as, “slut”, “whore”, and a host of other offensive labels. They want the world to know that despite how a woman is dressed or what she does for a living, she is a human being whose life is as valuable as any other person.

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I do partially empathize with the stance of the Slut Walk. As a woman, I can contest that there is a double standard between women and men when it comes to sexual expression. When men brag about having sex with numerous women, he’s congratulated for his sexual conquests. If a woman proudly protests about how many men she’s slept with, she’s instantly labeled as promiscuous and treated as such. I believe that this classless behavior is not attractive despite your gender. Your amount of sexual encounters and partners is your own personal business. We have to be more mindful of how we talk about sex especially when it comes to the amount of sexual partners one may have.

An additional view of this protest that I also empathize with is the many instances where men blame women for being victims of sexual assault or harassment. Men need to take responsibility of their predatory and creeper-like actions they place upon women. It’s not acceptable for women that are dressed in everyday, non-sexually alluring clothes to be harassed or raped for walking alone somewhere late at night, to work, to school or any other normal everyday destination. Men have the freedom and pleasure to go to parties and get totally wasted and intoxicated and not have to be mindful of the probability of being a victim of sexual assault. In my previous post, Assault – Fact & Fiction, I explore the unfortunate reality of how victim blaming is a normalized stance towards women in matters of sexual or violent assault.

Pure judgment solely based on clothes and victim blaming are always wrong and need to end; now with all that being said, I do have strong disagreements with the Slut Walk. I have and never will find any pride or take ownership in being called a “slut” or a “ho”. Honestly, I’ve never in my life been called any of these sexually derogatory slurs. I’m no one’s angel, but I’ve always been very discrete and private about my sex life. It’s my business and I don’t ever want anyone knowing or feeling freedom to place any stance or judgment about what I do behind closed doors. But I take this personal stance not because I’m a woman, it’s because I have class. It’s your own responsibility of how you express yourself to the world. If you heavily rely on your looks and sexual capabilities, then that’s the only factor that people will know about you. We have to be careful when it comes to women like Amber Rose being pushed to the forefront of protests about female sexuality and identity.

Amber Rose is a woman whose entire career has been built on her sexual allure. She’s a sexy and beautiful woman who has successfully capitalized off her physical blessings. If you explore any of her social media pages, you can see her proud display of her beauty and curvaceous mass appeal. But Amber is in control of her own image and objectification. If she doesn’t want to be judged then she needs to take responsibility of what she shares with the public. The general public should not know this much about her past relationships and sexual conquests, but she’s always openly shared this with the world. Like I said before; if you don’t want judgment then keep your mouth shut. If Amber wants us to have more respect for her, then show us other sides to your being. If you only move through this world with your sexuality then you will be treated as a sexual object.

I find it difficult to wholly empathize and relate to women like Amber Rose that fail to take ownership of their own imbalanced self expression; especially people that have a background in the sex industry. Amber Rose was formerly a stripper and has made the choice in expressing her sexuality in this manner. I think all people who have worked in different aspects of the sex industry – pornography, strippers, escorts, prostitution, etc., need to always know that they will be met with judgment in their everyday lives. Although this industry is very profitable, it still isn’t a profession that is socially acceptable and is heavily frowned upon, however, it is not impossible to positively transition out of that type of lifestyle either. For example, the award-winning rapper Eve was formerly a stripper before she made her historical mark in hip-hop. Once she left the world of exotic dancing, she successfully displayed her many talents as a prolific MC, actress, and businesswoman. To this day, there are people that don’t even know about Eve’s former days of being a stripper because she was ambitious and secure in displaying her intellect and other multifaceted talents.

Women have to be very careful of what we place under this umbrella of issues surrounding women’s rights and equality. We must also be careful of who we choose as our leaders or spokesperson.

Amber Rose’s career displays her thrive off of attention. She fails to show dimension in her talents, spirituality and intellect. We have to be mindful of the examples we’re setting for the young girls of the world. We have to be honest with the youth in letting them know the harmful consequences of having your identity rely heavily on your sexuality. Whether male or female, your sex life is your own private business and it is vital to establish your self-respect and worth early in your life. The fact of the matter is; respect is never given, its earned. If you want more, you have to show more. It’s that simple.

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